Many gay men yearn to have families. Some LGBT couples look upon having a baby as a culmination of their relationship with their partner.
Usually LGBT couples start thinking of parenthood once they passed the age of 30. They viewed parenthood as a reflection of the stability of their relationship, and financial and career security. In a recent survey, most of them viewed having a baby as “planned and responsible” parenthood.
We recognize that for LGBT couples there are unique societal challenges and a difficult cultural environment that makes it complicated for having and caring for a family
At Surrogacy4All it is our goal to ensure to the best of our ability, the long-term health and safety of everyone involved in the surrogacy process. This includes the Intended Parents, the Surrogate, the Egg Donor and especially the babies.
To ensure this works for everyone, the first step is for us to meet with you by phone and preferably in person, to fully understand your needs, goals and desires. We view this as being a relationship where we support you throughout the surrogacy process, from the beginning until you have a beautiful baby in your arms.
Remember to make this work for everyone, we need to be able to match you as Intended Parents with the right Egg Donors, Surrogates and IVF Clinics, whose personalities and services provided fit your expectations.
The Egg Donor is usually the first item to be addressed, and one of the most important parts of the process. While the Surrogate function is that of a carrier, the DNA of your baby will come from you and your egg donor. Your sperm will be mixed with her eggs at the IVF Clinic to create the embryos.
For many couples the generosity of the egg donor to donate her eggs, solves the heartbreaking issues associated with a lack of usable female eggs to have a baby. They are a fundamental part of helping intended parents create a family.
Most probably, you have a mental idea of the kind of donor you are looking for in terms of age, physical appearance, education, family history and personality. Our goal is to make this dream come true.
For an American Donor, as a starting point, we refer you to our affiliated website: www.IndianEggDonors.com, where we have over 1,000 Egg Donor profiles. Follow directions to log in and do a free search. Keep a list of the top five egg donors you like in order of preference and bring it with you when you come to see us. It will help us in in helping you plan.
Overseas donors are again usually selected based upon on your personal preferences. We offer several options:
These are usually from Eastern Europe including Ukraine as well as from Ghana. For a higher cost we can provide American donors who occasionally are willing to go overseas for an “Egg Donation” vacation. Frozen eggs are also available as an option
These we typically provide through the clinic overseas They are inexpensive and locally available. Again, for a higher cost we can provide American donors who occasionally are willing to go overseas for an “Egg Donation” vacation.
Please let us know your preferences and we can arrange to send you several profiles for your review.
The selection of the surrogate is itself an important decision. We recommend the surrogate to be a person who is not driven solely or even primarily by money. As part of our psychological screening we look for a surrogacy mother who combines the appropriate mixture of altruism and other motivations (“I like being pregnant”) along with the financial incentives.
Our best choice of surrogates typically is those that already have one or two children, do not want any more children of her own, liked being pregnant and liked helping other people. Basically a “good kind person”. Many come from the helping professions with careers as teachers or nurses and feel the most beautiful when they are pregnant.
One surrogate stated the reason she became a surrogate is because “No matter what else I do in my life, I will always feel I have done something to help make a meaningful defense in another person.
The other important issue that comes up repeatedly is whether the surrogacy should be anonymous or not.
In the USA, we feel that the best state laws for surrogacy is in California. In California, the surrogate name and contact information is fully disclosed in the surrogacy agreement, as the surrogate has the contact information for the Intended Parent.
California law requires that a copy of the gestational surrogacy agreement be filed with the court as part of the parentage action.
This also allows the Intended Parent to share in and be a party to the pregnancy process – which is very important to many IPs.
Many Intended Parents prefer the anonymous nature of overseas surrogacy., Using foreign people as surrogates, reduces the chance of surrogate mother making demands and attempting to influence the way the child is raised in years to come.
Plus, the benefit of safety in distance. It takes the emotion out of the business arrangement and ensure you as the Intended Parent, can raise the child without any kind of outside interference.
At our agency we honor your decision and offer both options. The Choice is yours.
Once these decisions are made, then we will jointly help evaluate your choices and recommend to you some IVF Clinics, Law Firms, Escrow Agents and Financing Sources that will work best for you. to help you become the loving Intended Parents you want to be.
Many men will benefit by taking supplements before sperm donation. Our Holistic and Integrative Physicians recommend the following supplements for your use .