How to Find an LGBTQ+ Friendly IVF Clinic and Surrogacy Agency

By Dr. Jane Tucker, MD, Board-Certified in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility

Building a family as an LGBTQ+ individual or couple is a joyful and meaningful journey — but it also comes with unique challenges. Finding an IVF clinic or surrogacy agency that is LGBTQ+ affirming is crucial for creating a supportive, respectful, and successful experience.

In this guide, we’ll help you identify the best clinics and agencies that welcome and empower LGBTQ+ families, and what to look for during your search.

Why LGBTQ+ Inclusivity Matters in Fertility Care

Unfortunately, not all clinics and agencies are equally welcoming. LGBTQ+ intended parents may face:

• Lack of understanding about unique needs
• Gendered assumptions in consultations
• Legal or insurance limitations
• Emotional discomfort with providers

Working with inclusive, affirming providers ensures:

• Emotional safety and respect
• Family structures are validated and supported
• Legal complexities are handled correctly

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Signs of an LGBTQ+ Friendly IVF Clinic

1. Inclusive Language

• “Intended parents,” not just “mom and dad”
• All genders represented in forms and communication

2. Diverse Families in Marketing

• Website and social media show same-sex and non-binary families

3. LGBTQ+ Experience

• Providers mention LGBTQ+ services clearly
• Clinic offers sperm washing, reciprocal IVF, or donor coordination

4. Legal Support

• Referrals to LGBTQ+ family lawyers
• Guidance on pre-birth and post-birth parentage orders

5. Clinic Partnerships with Surrogacy Agencies

• Seamless collaboration with LGBTQ+ inclusive agencies like Surrogacy4All

LGBTQ+ Friendly Fertility Services to Look For

Service	Description
Reciprocal IVF	One partner provides eggs; the other carries
Egg or Sperm Donation	From anonymous or known LGBTQ+ donors
Embryo Freezing & Banking	Options for future family building
Gender-Neutral Fertility Counseling	Inclusive language and pathways
Insurance Navigation	Support for LGBTQ+ coverage questions

How to Vet IVF Clinics for LGBTQ+ Inclusivity

• Read reviews on FertilityIQ, Google, or RESOLVE forums
• Call ahead and ask:
  “Do you have experience working with LGBTQ+ families?”
• Ask how many LGBTQ+ patients they’ve worked with in the past year
• Request to speak with a coordinator who understands your unique family dynamic

LGBTQ+ Friendly IVF Clinics in the U.S.

While many clinics are becoming more inclusive, the following are known for strong LGBTQ+ programs:

• Shady Grove Fertility – Multiple U.S. locations
• Boston IVF – Massachusetts
• San Diego Fertility Center – California
• ORM Fertility – Oregon
• RMA of New Jersey – NJ & NY
• CCRM – Nationwide
• Pacific Fertility Center – San Francisco

What to Look for in an LGBTQ+ Friendly Surrogacy Agency

1. LGBTQ+ Testimonials & Case Studies

• Look for examples of gay dads, lesbian couples, or single LGBTQ+ parents

2. No Restrictions Based on Marital Status or Gender

• Some international agencies limit surrogacy to heterosexual couples

3. Surrogates Comfortable with LGBTQ+ Matches

• Surrogates should be screened and affirming of all family types

4. Access to LGBTQ+ Donors

• Diverse egg/sperm donor options that reflect the LGBTQ+ community

5. Support Groups and Counseling

• Access to LGBTQ+ parenting resources and peer support

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FAQs: LGBTQ+ Family Building

Q: Is it legal for same-sex couples to pursue surrogacy in the U.S.?

Ans. Yes, in most U.S. states, surrogacy is legal and inclusive of all family structures.

Q: What is reciprocal IVF?

Ans. One partner provides the egg, and the other carries the pregnancy — popular with lesbian couples.

Q: Can we use an egg or sperm donor and still be listed as parents?

Ans. Yes — with legal parentage orders, you will be the legal parents.

Q: Do we need to be married?

Ans. No. Surrogacy4All supports single, partnered, or married LGBTQ+ individuals and couples.

Q: How do we find a surrogate comfortable with LGBTQ+ families?

Ans. All Surrogacy4All surrogates are carefully screened and LGBTQ+ affirming.

Q: What if we live in a state with limited LGBTQ+ legal protections?

Ans. You can work with a surrogate in a more supportive state — we’ll guide you legally.

Q: Can we meet other LGBTQ+ parents?

Ans. Yes — we offer introductions, support groups, and peer mentorship.

Q: Will insurance cover LGBTQ+ IVF or surrogacy?

Ans. Coverage varies. Some employers now offer LGBTQ+-specific fertility benefits.

Q: What if we want two children from both of us?

Ans. Dual embryo transfers or sibling journeys are possible using both partners’ genetic material.

Q: How do we explain our family structure to our child?

Ans. We offer counseling and resources to help with open, age-appropriate communication.

Final Thoughts

Every family deserves to be celebrated — and supported. For LGBTQ+ individuals and couples, finding the right fertility clinic and surrogacy agency is more than a logistical step — it’s a declaration of your values and your vision of family.
At Surrogacy4All, we are proud to champion LGBTQ+ family building and provide expert support, empathy, and care at every milestone.

Start your journey today.

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