My First Surrogacy Case – A Journey of Heart, Hope, and Human Connection

When I first became a surrogacy coordinator, I knew I was stepping into a role filled with emotion, complexity, and incredible humanity. Me being a qualified Anesthesiologist from India, I had always worked with people, needles, anesthetics. But when I delved into this journey of being a surrogacy coordinator it was truly satisfying and emotionally enthralling for me. Surrogacy4all became my passion, and my goal was to help people complete their families. Despite having these emotions nothing truly prepared me for my first case, the real people, the raw emotions, and the life-changing journey we would take together. Let me take you through what it was like from my eyes: the fears, the triumphs, and the moments that confirmed why I chose this path.

This was the first day of the office at Surrogacy4all New York location! My Team was truly supportive of all my efforts from recruitment of surrogates to their placement. Below is My desk!

I was made to read immense articles and had an aggressive training course for 3 months. It was truly enjoying. Understanding all the critical aspects of surrogacy. But it’s different when I dealed with an actual case.

I was first introduced to an Indian couple from California, a very talkative and anxious intended parent. After an aggressive search I finally zeroed down on a suitable surrogate for her, we finally found the one. Her name was Kimberly she was from Texas. She was a second time experienced surrogate. I remember the first match call, where I introduced the intended parent with Kimberly. I felt immense joy from inside. Oh!! This was an achievement I thought. But soon I realized, this was just the start. From securing Kimberly’s medical records to getting her matched at a top-notch clinic in California. It was tough! Kimberly made through all the difficult paths with me. She was a good surrogate. Luckily, I was good at recognizing the good and the really interested ones (surrogates). My role was just not limited to sending emails and talking to the surrogate and the intended parents officially. But I had to dig deep in understanding the personality of my surrogate, being her friend and a true companion in her whole journey. After I connected well with surrogate, gaining trust and preparing her for this journey was my main goal. Next, I was preparing and engaging with the intended parent too. Of course, I had to become her friend and companion too, because that’s the only way she would be able to release her anxiousness. This intended parent had difficult miscarriages and failed IVF transfers and tried their options in India and Africa both. Nothing was fruitful. USA was their only hope left. The intended parent always thought of me as her lucky charm. Indeed, I was!

Kimberly had her first transfer in Dec 2024. I remember that day vividly. She was nervous to get through this. I was emotionally and mentally guiding her to attend the doctors’ appointments and to be stress free. After 10 days, the result came. Kimberly was pregnant!!! I was on cloud 9. It was an achievement. My intended parent was extremely happy. After 3 months, I went on my maternity leave myself and Kimberly had a miscarriage. It was disheartening. I couldn’t break the news to my intended parent as I was more like family to her. My intended parent was completely broken. I was too. I motivated her to not give up if I was with her. Thus, Kimberly was made to do another embryo transfer in June, I wasn’t there that time, as I was on maternity leave. Kimberly had a failed transfer. It was so difficult to convince my intended parent to give it a last try. There was one last embryo left, and I was back from my maternity leave. This being the last embryo of my intended parent, I was mentally prepared that this must work!

Kimberly had her last embryo transfer in August. And again, I was considered lucky by my intended parent. Kimberly was pregnant again!! I was overjoyed. This time it will work out by the grace of God. It was an accomplishment. We made it. Below is my surrogate’s picture with the ultrasound scan picture of the baby. This is my first surrogate baby, my first case.

We are currently in the last month of pregnancy for Kimberly. I have all my hopes and prayers for this case. Everything will go as planned.

It has been an overwhelming journey for all three of us – Kimberly, intended parent and me. Managing the case from the medical, legal, psychological and insurance aspect has changed my outlook towards surrogacy. I have developed immense respect for this process. The different approach other than the normal one, giving a family fulfil their dreams and wishes of years is such a worthy journey. I have a message for both the surrogates and intended parents. From the coordinator perspective, I will always be there for my surrogates guiding them as a doctor and as a friend in their journey and for the intended parents I will be their strongest support holding their hands till I make their wishes come true. I look forward to sharing more of my surrogacy cases. This has been the most rewarding experience of handling something so deeply human, giving both my medical knowledge and my personalized human touch.