Course / What Couples Therapy Really Looks Like
Many intended parents view therapy as a last resort for a relationship in crisis. In the context of surrogacy, this is a fundamental misunderstanding. Think of couples therapy not as a reactive measure, but as a proactive support system.
It is a structured, skills-based process designed to help you and your partner manage the unique stresses of the surrogacy journey—from the initial decision-making to the postpartum transition—as a unified team.
In therapy sessions tailored for intended parents, we focus on three critical pillars. This is where the real work happens.
The journey begins long before the embryo transfer. Disagreements can arise over everything from choosing an egg donor to the level of involvement with your surrogate.
In Therapy, You Will:Â Learn communication techniques to discuss fears, hopes, and expectations without judgment. We facilitate conversations to ensure you are both aligned on your “why” and have a shared vision for your growing family.
Expert Insight:Â A common stressor is mismatched excitement or anxiety levels. Therapy provides a neutral space to balance these emotions and get on the same page.
Surrogacy introduces a unique dynamic where a third person is intimately involved in creating your family. This can bring up complex emotions about control, jealousy, and connection.
In Therapy, You Will: Develop strategies for establishing healthy boundaries and a positive relationship with your surrogate. We work on processing feelings of “missing out” on the pregnancy experience and framing your surrogate’s role as a collaborative partnership.
Expert Insight:Â The goal is to transform potential anxiety into a foundation of mutual respect and clear communication, which is crucial for a smooth journey.
The surrogacy process is a series of highs and lows—from successful medical screenings to anxious waiting periods. This chronic stress can strain even the strongest relationships.
In Therapy, You Will:Â Acquire practical coping mechanisms and stress-management tools. We focus on conflict resolution skills to prevent arguments about logistics from escalating into deeper relationship issues.
Expert Insight:Â We treat the process itself as the “problem,” not your partner. This allows you to become allies against the stress, rather than opponents.
Forget the stereotype of lying on a couch. Our sessions are active, conversational, and goal-oriented.
Check-in:Â We start by assessing the current “pulse” of your journey and your relationship since the last session.
Skill Building:Â I will teach a specific technique, such as “I feel” statements or active listening, to improve your communication.
Focused Discussion:Â We apply that skill to a real-life challenge you’re facing, whether it’s related to an upcoming clinic appointment, communication with your agency, or a personal disagreement.
Action Plan: We end with a concrete “homework” assignment—a simple task to practice your new skill before our next meeting.
Couples therapy is beneficial for:
Pre-Journey Preparation:Â Solidifying your foundation before you begin.
Mid-Process Support:Â Navigating unexpected setbacks or emotional fatigue.
Transition to Parenthood:Â Preparing for the unique experience of bringing your baby home after a surrogacy pregnancy.
This is not a sign of weakness; it is a hallmark of strength and a commitment to your future family.
Our job is to listen, to connect the dots between your needs, and to determine how we can best help you have your baby. If you’re asking how much does it cost for a surrogate, we’ll walk you through every step of the process to ensure there are no surprises.
To make an appointment with one of our counselors or physicians, please call (212) 661-7673 or email info@surrogacy4all.com. We look forward to hearing from you.
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